It is a fact that 95% of my clients say that chocolate is their no. 1 craving. It is the guaranteed diet saboteur. It thrills me when I can stop that craving for good in just 10 minutes. When I talk to prospective clients about this, their eyes light up and they want to know more.
I would love to help you too. Get in touch, believe me, it is harmless, painless but the effects will change your life, for the better, for ever.
About Me
- ElaineFace2Face
- I work in the people business, because after all, life is all about people, people you love and cherish, people you like, your family, your friends, your work colleagues, your schoolmates
Tuesday 22 September 2009
Monday 14 September 2009
No More Chocolate
I have now helped many men and women to end chocolate cravings! Honestly, it is true, sign up to my newsletter and I can help you too.
Tuesday 8 September 2009
How To Lose Weight Easily ?
This is the big question, can you lose weight easily? Well to be honest we each have a different pain threshold don't we? So it stands to reason that we each have a different weight management threshold to. That's why some of us are thin, some are ok and some are fat or obese. We have different motivations around food and these motivations often carry a lot of unwanted baggage and that's not just the fat around our middle.
I have found that most people who want to to lose weight have emotional eating issues. They use food as a crutch, helping them to find something that is missing in their lives. Often loneliness is a major culprit, linked with boredom, low self esteem and a multitude of other hidden factors.
I help people to understand what is going on in their head and how their thoughts drive food into their mouths, I help them to understand what true hunger is and to recognise when their hunger is emotional.
What I often find is that people use food as a temporary control measure. They try to fix problems with food indulgences. Once they realise this and break the cycle they are able to change this learned behaviour for good, easily and effortlessly.
If you would like to learn more about these techniques contact me, weight have you got to lose?
I have found that most people who want to to lose weight have emotional eating issues. They use food as a crutch, helping them to find something that is missing in their lives. Often loneliness is a major culprit, linked with boredom, low self esteem and a multitude of other hidden factors.
I help people to understand what is going on in their head and how their thoughts drive food into their mouths, I help them to understand what true hunger is and to recognise when their hunger is emotional.
What I often find is that people use food as a temporary control measure. They try to fix problems with food indulgences. Once they realise this and break the cycle they are able to change this learned behaviour for good, easily and effortlessly.
If you would like to learn more about these techniques contact me, weight have you got to lose?
Friday 7 August 2009
How to ask Open Questions
I have found that one of the main problems that people have is how to ask good questions. Most people know that open questions are better than closed questions to get at the route of a problem. Yet it is still so easy to fall into the closed question trap.
Well what is the difference?
Open questions draw the client out as they offer the opportunity to look at the braoder picture. they are designed to encourage creative thought and allow the client to explore their ideas. Open questions ask for a more descriptive answer. they are non-judgemental. For example, "What are your plans to address this issue?" Your client/employee, feels unthreatened and can voice their ideas in confidence. Open questions cannot be answered with a simple Yes or No.
The opposite closed questions limit the person answering. They generally elicit simple one word answers or a yes/no response. They bring an end to the line of questioning and you have to start again.
Words like Who, What, How, When and Where are often used to start open questions. Openings such as , 'tell me' or 'describe to me' are also effective. Opening questionings like do, have, has, is and are lll tend to impose limits on the conversation.
Well what is the difference?
Open questions draw the client out as they offer the opportunity to look at the braoder picture. they are designed to encourage creative thought and allow the client to explore their ideas. Open questions ask for a more descriptive answer. they are non-judgemental. For example, "What are your plans to address this issue?" Your client/employee, feels unthreatened and can voice their ideas in confidence. Open questions cannot be answered with a simple Yes or No.
The opposite closed questions limit the person answering. They generally elicit simple one word answers or a yes/no response. They bring an end to the line of questioning and you have to start again.
Words like Who, What, How, When and Where are often used to start open questions. Openings such as , 'tell me' or 'describe to me' are also effective. Opening questionings like do, have, has, is and are lll tend to impose limits on the conversation.
Monday 3 August 2009
Empty Nest Syndrome
My youngest daughter left home at the weekend. I never thought it would happen. When she first told me she was leaving I never thought it would happen. But believe me it has.
I have cried for the past two weeks, off and on, not in her presence, but usually in the evening when I am on my own. Today I cleaned her old bedroom as a sort of drawing a line under the sand kind of way. I am trying to be positive and looking at all the positive outcomes of this new life I have.
Cheaper food bill, electricity etc. get to keep make up, shampoo, pants to myself, a quiet house, no more cigarette smoke.
But I am fooling myself, I will miss our girlie chats, having a giggle sharing a bottle of wine, being naughty and jointly demolishing a bar of chocolate, saying to each other no, you don't look fat in that!
I am looking forward to going around to her house and having her cook me a meal, I wonder if I can escape the dishes.........................
I have cried for the past two weeks, off and on, not in her presence, but usually in the evening when I am on my own. Today I cleaned her old bedroom as a sort of drawing a line under the sand kind of way. I am trying to be positive and looking at all the positive outcomes of this new life I have.
Cheaper food bill, electricity etc. get to keep make up, shampoo, pants to myself, a quiet house, no more cigarette smoke.
But I am fooling myself, I will miss our girlie chats, having a giggle sharing a bottle of wine, being naughty and jointly demolishing a bar of chocolate, saying to each other no, you don't look fat in that!
I am looking forward to going around to her house and having her cook me a meal, I wonder if I can escape the dishes.........................
Monday 6 July 2009
Letting Go Of The Past
This exercise will help you to reorganise your past and bring memories to the conscious mind from the unconscious. You can then dismiss memories that you don't like and disgard them, they are no use to you so let them go.
- Close your eyes and recall a time where you were most comfortable and at ease, this could be a beach, your garden or anywhere at all. Visualise the colours, hear the sounds, feel the feelings.
- Now you are relaxed, think of a memory from your childhood, one that is clear and focussed. Now take your first footsteps and as you do so recall that time when you were a child. If there are any unhappy memories visualise them drifting away into the distance, geting smaller and smaller, dimmer and dimmer. You will now be free of them for ever. The happier memories you will keep and they will become brighter and brighter.
- Go through each year of your life in the same way until you reach the present.
- When you have reached this point you can have a fresh start.
It is no longer time to live in the past, if you have made mistakes, you are amongst the biggest band in the world. Noone is perfect. Enjoy building beautiful memories.
Wednesday 24 June 2009
How To Influence Anyone and Everyone
Secret number 1 is to build rapport. The dictionary definition of raport may go something like this "A harmonious or sympathetic relation or connection". A more appropriate definition would be. "Your ability to enter into someone's model of the world so that you can give them the feeling of being totally understood".
The key word here is 'understood' because understanding is at the core of relationships, sales, coaching and many other areas where interpersonal skills are used. Rapport, is about effective communication. In this area, Dr. Birtwhistle's 1970s' reasearch is often quoted. He determined that 55% of your meaning is communicated by your physiology, 38% from your tone of voice and a mere 7% from the words you use.
To establish and build rapport, you must speak the other person's language, here is an example:
A music tutor was trying to explain how to play a particularly troublesome piece of music to a student. "Look at the music sheet and get a picture inside your head of where you come in and keep an eye on me"
"It doesn't feel right" said the student.
The tutor continued painting the picture but the student still did not get the point. His pal whispered to him. "You know when you are skateboarding. You turn in mid air and hold out until the very last second. That's the feeling he wants you to get with the music"
The student got it at once. His friend knew the words that connected with the students thinking process. The tutor did not.
Human beings process information by using their five main senses of seeing, hearing, feeling, smelling and tasting. These allow the mind to code and understand what is happening. Although everyone has these senses, some will be more developed or favoured than the others and it is these preferred senses that will be used to represent the world.
Once you are aware of this, you can detect the preferred sense of anyone that you are talking to. In the earlier example, the music tutor was clearly a 'visual' person as revealed by him using the words, look, picture and eye in his teaching. the student was a feeling person, in fact he used the word feel to his pal. His pal picking up on this used the same feeling speech pattern and there was immediate understanding.
The key word here is 'understood' because understanding is at the core of relationships, sales, coaching and many other areas where interpersonal skills are used. Rapport, is about effective communication. In this area, Dr. Birtwhistle's 1970s' reasearch is often quoted. He determined that 55% of your meaning is communicated by your physiology, 38% from your tone of voice and a mere 7% from the words you use.
To establish and build rapport, you must speak the other person's language, here is an example:
A music tutor was trying to explain how to play a particularly troublesome piece of music to a student. "Look at the music sheet and get a picture inside your head of where you come in and keep an eye on me"
"It doesn't feel right" said the student.
The tutor continued painting the picture but the student still did not get the point. His pal whispered to him. "You know when you are skateboarding. You turn in mid air and hold out until the very last second. That's the feeling he wants you to get with the music"
The student got it at once. His friend knew the words that connected with the students thinking process. The tutor did not.
Human beings process information by using their five main senses of seeing, hearing, feeling, smelling and tasting. These allow the mind to code and understand what is happening. Although everyone has these senses, some will be more developed or favoured than the others and it is these preferred senses that will be used to represent the world.
Once you are aware of this, you can detect the preferred sense of anyone that you are talking to. In the earlier example, the music tutor was clearly a 'visual' person as revealed by him using the words, look, picture and eye in his teaching. the student was a feeling person, in fact he used the word feel to his pal. His pal picking up on this used the same feeling speech pattern and there was immediate understanding.
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